Attraction Does Not Necessitate Action

Just because we can date everyone doesn’t mean we should.

Limerence: a state of mind which results from romantic or non-romantic feelings for another person... and a desire to form or maintain a relationship with the object of love and have one's feelings reciprocated [Wikipedia]

In polyamory, newbies and old pros alike can develop eyes that are bigger than their stomach.

Love may be infinite, but time and energy are not.

Floating in a state of limerence does not a sustainable relationship make. It does not entitle us to their attention.

If you always feel the need to make a move and are afflicted with FOMO, ask yourself: is this coming from a scarcity or abundance mindset?

You don't have to try to date everyone you have a crush on.

Maybe you're polysaturated. Maybe it wouldn't be safe or appropriate to ask that co-worker out. Maybe they're strictly monogamous. (Et cetera.)

Consider the logistics and the circumstances. It's not always feasible - and that's a-okay. You've got nothing to prove.

This isn't to denigrate crushes across the board and this isn't me saying to never pursue a crush.

Developing feelings for people can be wonderful and full of opportunity (and is such a delightful part of being unapologetically polyamorous), but take care not to write too much of a one-sided narrative in your head.

Carpe diem - but be mindful of consequences, of your capacities, of others' boundaries.

If you've evaluated and have determined there can be much more to gain than to lose for the both of you, then go for it!