Tips for Creating a Polyam Dating Profile (w/ #open)
Online dating is so normalized, but it still exists in a weird liminal space of socialization. It’s convenient, sure, but it can be a daunting way to try to be vulnerable and connect with likeminded folks. Monogamous dating can be hard enough, but there are even fewer examples and models when it comes to non-monogamous dating. If you don’t know where to begin when it comes to putting together a solid polyamorous dating profile, I hope this can help get you started!
FILL OUT THAT ABOUT ME!
Everyone's favorite part, right? [sarcasm]
Here’s an “About Me” example, followed by some quick tips.
BARDIC INSPIRATION: PROFILE WRITING TIPS
Be honest and upfront about your relationship structure/philosophy and what you're looking for.
Have dealbreakers or preferences? Write them down! Allow people to filter themselves out to save time for everyone.
Take your time. Introspect. Let yourself be creative, but aim for authenticity over showmanship.
Ask for help from a friend (or another partner!) How would they describe you?
What values, activities, traits, etc. are important to you? What are 3-5 qualities that make you "you"?
Have fun with the process! It doesn't have to be perfect.
SAY CHEESE: PROFILE PIC TIPS
Post at least four different pictures to help stimulate the imagination (#open allows up to 7)
Try to show yourself in a variety of contexts: action shot, posed, candid, indoors/outdoors, things you enjoy
Take selfies! Full face + full body. Experiment w/ lighting & angles (fancy equipment not required)
Again, get a friend or partner to help!
Remember: authenticity over showmanship!
LEVERAGE THOSE SETTINGS
Repeat after me: There are plenty of fish in the sea, but not all of them are for me (even if I am a polyam bisexual slut).
Leverage the full settings options of the app!
Scarcity thinking might make you hesitant to use filters - but what's the good in matching with people who aren't compatible anyway?
HAPPY SWIPING!
One of the most exciting, rewarding, freeing aspects of non-monogamy is how much we are allowed to mix and match when it comes to the relationship scripts we write in collaboration with our partners/lovers/pals/friends.
And it can also be one of the more daunting, overwhelming aspects. There are so many choices to make - and #open can help fellow non-monogamous folks find others to learn and play and explore with!
Don't forget to have fun with it all!
