On the Relationship Escalator (with Elizabeth Cunningham)

On the Relationship Escalator:

"Some people can feel defensive about [critiques of the relationship escalator] being like 'oh, well, what if I want to get married and have kids and all that?'

That's the important thing — if you want to make the choice and you actually have the choice.

Where it gets iffy and where it gets kind of bad is when the choice is taken away. Either through laws or through social pressures — that choice is taken away from you."

-Michelle Hy via The Elizabeth Cunningham Show: Courageously Expanding Love

Listen to Love and Life Coach Elizabeth Cunningham and I chat about the relationship escalator, mononormativity, intersectionality in polyamory, “altruistic hedonism” and a lot more: tinyurl.com/RelationshipEscalator

(seriously, we touched on a lot and that hour flew by!)

Also listen on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify

For some reason, the right to choose has been on my mind lately. Can't possibly imagine why.

Ask yourself if you're serving the idea of a relationship as opposed to the other way around. Take note of external systems that pressure or dictate how we must live. What are they rooted in? Who benefits? Who does this serve?

Also check out:

Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator by Amy Gahran